Sunday, February 14, 2010

Review: Love and War: Finding the Marriage You Dreamed Of

With refreshing openness that will grab readers from the first page, the Eldredges candidly discuss their own marriage and the insights they’ve gained from the challenges they faced. Each talks independently to the reader about what they’ve learned, giving their guidance personal immediacy and a balance between the male and female perspectives that has been absent from all previous books on this topic. They begin LOVE & WAR with an obvious but necessary acknowledgement: Marriage is fabulously hard. They advise that the sooner we get the shame and confusion off our backs, the sooner we'll find our way through.

LOVE & WAR shows couples how to fight for their love and happiness, calling men and women to step into the great adventure God has waiting for them together. Walking alongside John and Stasi Eldredge, every couple can discover how their individual journeys are growing into a story of meaning much greater than anything they could do or be on their own.

Guest Reviewer: Tracy's Thoughts:

I’ve read a few other books by John & Stasi Eldredge and I really enjoy the personal stories that they share, stories of the difficult struggles they have faced individually and as a couple. I appreciate that they put it all out there to help others work through their struggles. However, I was disappointed because so much of the information in Love & War was a repeat from other books I’ve read (Captivating and Wild at Heart). This book is written for couples so it covers both the strength of men and the beauty of women. It is my opinion that you should read this book first.

One of the most profound lessons of Love & War for me was that a couple’s heart is to fight a great battle TOGETHER. So many times we get stuck in a rut and focus on the day to day things that must be done. Our focus should be on what we want to accomplish together. The Eldredge’s point out that if we don’t find a great battle to face together, we will start one with each other.

Love & War also discusses the ways that Satan attacks our marriage by playing on our weaknesses and our past. But as Christians we need to remember that when we become complacent, GOD also sends disruptions. These disruptions are meant to be a wakeup call to refocus our efforts together.

It was just a nice reminder that true love always puts others first. If I spend more time finding ways to love my husband and working on the log in my own eye, I won’t have nearly as much time to focus on all of the things he’s done to “wrong me”.

*** Many thanks to my friend Tracy for reading and reviewing this book for me.

This book was provided for review by the Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group.

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  1. Interesting review. At first I was confused - why did you change your name to Tracy? Or did you just forget the S? But then, I went and got coffee and came back, and it's all making sense to me now!

  2. She was disappointed in this book, is that mainly because this book covered so much info from earlier books? So, if she'd read this one first she might have loved it?

  3. Stacybuckeye: You got it right Stacy. Tracy told me that she wished she had read this one first because it was a melding of the two prior books and felt like a retelling for her.

  4. Tracy did a great review of this book. I am not sure if it's a book I would read or not.


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